• Focus in grades: “my grades are more important than I am”
  • That hurts
  • So they go into power struggle
• We need them to have ownership rather than power struggle
• We shouldn’t make them suffer but we might have to allow them to experiment suffer
• Children do what works
• Positive discipline are not technics, it’s about principles
• Healthy children explore the consequences of their things, rather than being imposed.
• One has to be VERY curious about one’s children to raise good questions while educating.
• Connection before correction
  • I sense this is the reason why I disregard people. I feel like I always was corrected, avoiding connection.  Therefore I learned to avoid connection.
    • Lo 1ro que se viene a mi mente es esa paleta de madera…
  • Self calm down
    • Time out grandma
  • “would it help you to go to your happy place”

English:

• Has never met a perfect parent
• A parent not struggling with his child needs therapy.
• “they want to do the right thing when nobody is looking”
  • They are not expecting praises
  • They are not afraid of the punishment
• What is the most important job in the world? Parenting
• What is the job with least training for? Parenting
• there is always one controlling parent and pervasive parent
• the will end up arguing each other sometime in the future arguing who’s right and who’s wrong.
• Positive discipline is about giving training and finding solutions
• The primary goal is children to be capable and confident human beings
  • Happy contributors to society
• Is not a parent’s job to make it’s children happy
• We want to teach them how to make themselves happy
• Outcomes of punishment
  • Rebellion: they can’t make me. I’ll do what I want.
  • Revenge: hurt back, even if it hurts my future.
  • Retreat: I must be a bad person.
• Focus in grades: “my grades are more important than I am”
  • That hurts
  • So they go into power struggle
• We need them to have ownership rather than power struggle
• We shouldn’t make them suffer but we might have to allow them to experiment suffer
• Children do what works
• Positive discipline are not technics, it’s about principles
• Healthy children explore the consequences of their things, rather than being imposed.
• One has to be VERY curious about one’s children to raise good questions while educating.
• Connection before correction
  • I sense this is the reason why I disregard people. I feel like I always was corrected, avoiding connection.  Therefore I learned to avoid connection.
    • Lo 1ro que se viene a mi mente es esa paleta de madera…
  • Self calm down
    • Time out grandma
  • “would it help you to go to your happy place”